Since the subject of subsidy came up, I thought I'd post the breakdown by state for those of you who haven't seen this yet. I agree that ALL children should be eligible for a subsidy and whatever assistance they need - not based of their age or the color of their skin...but the states think otherwise.
I went into adoption not even knowing that any help would be continued after the final adoption date, but now that I know about it, I'm very grateful for it. The daycare help alone might have made the difference between us adopting Addy at age two and having to limit our age preference to school age kids.
This is for those of you who have been through the adoption courts already. I have to meet with my adoption lawyer shortly. What should I ask for in the adoption agreement? I'm afraid I won't specify something important only to have it come back on me. I found out one of the families in my daycare didn't specifically put in for daycare because they were told it's automatically paid until age 6. Now that the adoption is final, the state is refusing to pay because it's not in the agreement.
- We have good medical coverage but does she still get Medicaid? If her presciptions and co-pays could be covered, that would help alot.
- WIC told me she's eligible up until age 5. Does that have to be put in the agreement?
- How about the subsidy? She's eligible for that but do I specifically have to ask for it?
- Dental and orthodontal, is that normally covered?
- I don't expect any problems but should I ask for counseling, treatment centers, etc. to be covered just in case? Is this normal?
- Anything else I might not know of? I've read adoption books but I've never really seen this topic discussed.
I had it all set to spell Addy's name ADALINE. Then, I went and looked at the archives of my local newspaper to verify the spelling of my great-great grandmother's name. It's spelled ADELINE. Since then, I've researched and found that ADELINE is the much more popular spelling. The thing is, I need to make a decision asap because my lawyer already asked for the name for court.
It's really hot here so yesterday, while the boys were in the pool, I sat Addy on the steps to wet her feet and watch them. After a while, I started getting hot so I put on my bathing suit and got in.
Addy stood up and stretched out her arms to go in with me. So, I held on to her and told her to kick her feet. She absolutely loved it! She just wants to be free in the water so I was trying to give her as much freedom as I could without letting her face go under. She was kicking her arms and legs and having the greatest time. I swear this kid is going to be swimming by the end of summer. We stayed in over an hour and she didn't want to get out.
It knocked her out and she slept like a log from 6:30 to 6:30!
Got the news that Addy's brother was born yesterday. They are letting mom try to parent for now since she seems to have more supports in place and this father is taking an active role. They will monitor the situation (thank God). I don't know if the baby will be in foster care with visitations or if they will let the baby home with the parents and monitor it.
I'm glad the decision is out of our hands for now. The social worker checked and we are licensed only to adopt, not foster. If we were given the opportunity to foster him, it would be a long process and there would be no guarantee. We would also wind up having contact with the mother at some point and I don't want that. I might feel a little safer once the adoption is finalized...will I ever feel truly safe? I don't know. I feel like a mama lion that is fiercely sheltering and protecting her cub from harm and I don't know if that feeling will ever go away after the papers are signed.
If the parents slack off on reunification (as she did with Addy) then hopefully, we can get his placement. I just pray that it's after August 9th because I would be afraid to take action right now.
I just got the email from Addy's caseworker that our adoption date has been set for August 9, 2007 at 2:00 pm! She's going to come over on Saturday so I'll find out more of what happened at court and the other meeting that was on Wednesday. We also got permission to take her out of state but I want to have an adoption party for her so I don't think I should be spending money on a vacation right now.