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Saturday, February 10, 2007
Judging, Trashing and Bashing
I made my blog private but I've been getting emails from my faithful readers not to let the trashers and bashers get the best of me.

I need to develop a tough skin, I guess.
15 Comments:
Yay! I am was happy to see you back this morning. I am a long time lurker and have been happy to see you finally find your daughter. I did not see the nastiness, but keep your head up! Oh and if you go private again.....please warn a person! LOL

Blogger Nichole Foster said...
Yes please, I just found you blog and I am always up for a new post. And Ally seems so perfect. I can't wait to see pictures.

Nichole

Blogger MichelleAnn said...
Hi! I am also a long time lurker. I have been following your journey to a daughter and am so happy that you have found her. I enjoy reading your updates about Addy and look forward to the day you can post a picture of her. By the way I love her name!!

Blogger Megamom said...
I kept trying to figure out your email so i could let you know I missed reading your blog! Im sooo glad you are back!

Blogger Megamom said...
Ahauna I was going to email you but i cant find a link anywhere. Im sorry you are going thru the wringer right now and i just wanted to let you know we dont all think the same way. I have 8 soon to be 9 children. They are all biological so i have no experience with the foster or adopt stuff but I do know how to stretch a budget and we do shop thrift stores, clearance sales and whatnot. I was NOT offended by the goodwill comment. You were obviously frustrated and I dont think there is any way having clothes 2 or 3 sizes too small is okay. Yeah maybe the goodwill part shouldnt have been in there, but we all say things when we are frustrated that dont always come across the right way. Clothing allowance or not, there are ways to stretch a budget and get clothes that fit, even if they are used. Although in defense of the foster mother, the stained clothing could be from not being great at doing laundry, like me :), so give her a break on that. And for the toys, when i read that, i understood you were trying to figure out whats best for addy, not tear her from her former foster mother.

Ideally there would have been a transitioning relationship with the foster mother, but since there wasnt, you grieve what you dont have, the lifebook, etc. Hang in there.

Blogger Mary said...
Thank you for coming back! I enjoyed reading your blog and then you went private. I too have lurked(maybe posted once or twice) and was way excited that your daughter has arrived home.


Mary

Blogger pvbeach said...
I am so glad your blog is back. I am from the MWD yahoo group and I love reading your blog. I was so diappointed when I couldn't read it anymore. I am so excited that you have your daughter now and I have enjoyed following your journey.

Kristen

Blogger Maggie said...
OK. I feel a bit dense. I didn't even notice you went private. I used bloglines so I don't check actual blogs until a post shows up through the RSS feed. All I have to say is if you go private please include me! You have my email.

I'm also glad you are back. I have really enjoyed reading you blog for a while now. Don't worry about what others say. I understand that you were just frustrated. There are many wonderful foster homes out there, but there are also many horrible ones, I have seen both. I know that you weren't saying that all foster parents are bad, you just didn't agree with some things that this foster mother did and if she is being investigated, obviously others thought the same thing.

I hope Addy's transition continues to go smoothly.

Misty

Blogger txmomof3 said...
Hi! Please ignore those negative comments... No one should try to ruin this special time in your life when you've finally become MOM to a wonderful little girl. I can't even remember which link I clicked that brought to your blog a couple of weeks ago. (My husband and I are considering international adoption and I've been trying to read as much as I can about people's experiences.) Somehow I came across your story and have been "addicted" ever since. Congratulations on your daugther!
Your comments/concerns about your daughter's first 18 mos. should not have caused the horrible complaints you received. Every child deserves to have clothing that fits and at least a snapshot or two from their babyhood.
I agree with the person who said that those negative people are definitely in the minority!!!
Please ignore them!!! Enjoy your daughter! :) You've got 18 months to catch up on.

Blogger Chelley said...
Sending you hugz and just wanted to say that I so enjoy reading your blog....

And I coundnt find your email addy to email you!!!

I was so worried that something was wrong

another caring fan....

YAY!!! I just thought I would check one last time to see if you changed your mind. I was so sad that I couldn't read about Addy in her new home with you guys loving her so much. So much is misread or misinterpreted when people don't know you and start judging your words when you are venting your feelings. I totally understood what you were saying and none of it even occured to me that you are anything but a loving mom who wants the best for her baby.

Now I can't wait to read a new post about that sweet baby.

Laurie
www.litvinskyfamily.com

Blogger The Family Zoo said...
Another lurker who is happy that you decided to come back. I am a foster mom and was not offended at all by your comments, fostering is like anything else, there is good and bad. I have loved reading about your journey and am so glad that Addy has your family to be her own.
Congratulations,
Shari

Blogger Amanda said...
Yay! I was so glad when I checked backed again to see that you weren't password protected. Can you please let me know if you decide to do that again? I am very invested in following Miss Addy and your family. LOL.

Blogger Fostermama said...
Hoping for an update soon.