I got a call at work today from my younger ds who was SO excited that he lost his bottom tooth. He told me that he had it in a bowl. I told him we had to make sure we remember to put it under the pillow tonight.
An hour later, I get another call. He's hysterical and cries even harder when he hears me. Our dog, Katy, ate the tooth out of the bowl. Sigh. I tried to calm him down and told him we'd leave a note to let the tooth fairy know what happened. Here's the note that the Tooth Fairy is going to leave for him:
I got your letter about your dog, Katy, eating your tooth. I had a nice talk with her and she let me jump into her belly and get it out. I told her it’s not nice to eat other people’s teeth because I need to save them to give to all the babies who are being born.
I left you something extra special because you are always such a good boy and I saw how upset you were when your tooth was eaten.
See you again soon! Make sure you brush your teeth every morning and every night to keep them nice and white and clean!
I asked my long time friend, Laurie, to be godmother the other day. She was thrilled. She has no children of her own so she is looking forward to the role. I'm not sure who DH is going to pick for godfather yet.
Last night I had a dream that we were at class and I got my daughter. She was younger than we are putting in for...about 4 y.o. I guess with blonde hair and blue eyes and her name was Rachael. Funny because we all have dark hair and eyes, I never pictured a daughter so light. It'll be fun to look back and read this post when we get a match to see if I got any of it right.
I started to fill out the reams of paperwork. I worked on it for an hour the other night until my hand just couldn't write anymore. We're halfway done with classes!
I found a listing on craiglist for a girl's canopy bedroom set so we went to look at it last night. It has a twin 4 poster canopy bed (canopy is missing some pieces), nightstand, long dresser with mirror and a little corner shelf. It has some flower decals and oak accents so I'm going to paint and distress the whole thing white and change out the ugly knobs with maybe clear glass ones.
I got the wallpaper border for her room and the light switch covers, too. For some reason, I'm having trouble uploading the pics here.
Tonight we have class again. Three weeks left! Yay!
I can't wait anymore - I've started shopping for her bedroom! I've decided to do her room in white and red toile. I found the bed set I want, I got her the scrapbook/photo album to match and I found a cute teddy bear to put on her bed.
We're finishing our basement for our older son right now, he'll have a bedroom, walk in closet and living area for his tv and videogames. Our daughter will go into his old room.
The same room I just repainted for the homestudy will be painted yet again but in white. I have the room all laid out in my head. White bedroom, twin bed, bureau, chest, my big dollhouse that my dad and grandfather made me when I was eight, a bookshelf and maybe a window seat where she can read - all accented in red toile.
Last night we had our second adoption class. It was about race and culture. I think they try and discourage adopting out of your race or maybe the classes are designed to bring out the worst of every situation, so when and if it happens you'll be pleasantly surprised that it wasn't as bad as they made it out to be? Who knows?
My DH and I are not prejudiced and we have raised our boys not to be either. They have friends of all different nationalities and they've never brought it up or treated them as anything less than their equals. It matters not one bit to me what nationality or color my daughter is. The teacher kept reiterating that we can't think like that, that it will cause problems. Yes, I will do everything I can so that they don't lose who they are or where they came from but I don't think it has to be as big of an issue. We live in a very diverse neighborhood with white, black, hispanic, indian, egyptian so if our child is darker skinned then we are, she will still blend in seamlessly at school.
One interesting thing I found out at class is that we will not be able to see a picture of our child until we agree to accept her. The reasoning is that they want you to really pay attention to the details instead of just seeing the child and falling in love right away. They feel once you have seen the child you will block out all the negatives and that when you actually have the child you may not be able to commit to what you agreed to. I don't like this at all right now but we'll see how it actually works out.
I finally feel like we're getting somewhere! We started our adoption licensing classes on Tuesday. It runs 6-9 pm every Tuesday and Thursday from July 18th to August 15th. The binder we got is about 6" thick with reams of paper.
There are 5 couples and 3 single parents in our class. Four to foster, four to adopt. Of the ones fostering, 2 are hoping to get infants, that's why they are taking that route. I couldn't do it. I just know with my personality that as soon as a child walked through my door, I would fall in love and they would have to fight me to get him/her back. Two couples are childless and just want children, boy or girl doesn't matter. I sat next to a really nice woman who already works at a foster house and fell in love with a little girl so she has to go through the process of licensing so she can move forward to become her mother.
We go back tonight. I can't wait, LOL. My dh doesn't understand why I'm not bored out of my mind sitting there listening to the teacher for 3 hours but I'm not. Even when I'm not in class, I'm reading about it because I want to be fully prepared going into this. I want to be able to do the best for her and for our families and going in prepared can only benefit us. I just ordered 5 more books and I got another in the mail yesterday. I'll review it in another post after I read it.
I really want to update my posts everyday but there's nothing to post. Time is dragging. I hate to be wishing the summer away but I wish it was over because we'd be that much closer to meeting our daughter. We start classes next Tuesday so we're moving ahead, no matter how slowly.
I see my kids out in the pool everyday and I feel bad she can't be with us now! My nieces are here visiting their father for the summer and they could be playing with her. I keep telling myself "next summer she'll be swimming in the pool", "by next summer I'll be buying her clothes for school". I want to shop so bad and ger her pretty things but I have no idea what size she'll be.
I'm reading "Adopting the Older Child" by Claudia L. Jewett. It's a must have for anyone considering or in the process of adopting an older child through domestic adoption. It literally walks you through every step of the process. The author interviewed families and children from all over the country and, using the data, developed 5 fictional children and 4 fictional families that go along the process with you.
The little girl that I talked about falling in love with a few posts back is off the photolisting website. I knew she wouldn't be there long but she was perfect for our family. I know that we're adopting a girl but yesterday I was looking at my state photolistings and I cried when I saw this little boy who's the same age as my younger ds. I can't imagine that poor little baby not getting the cuddles and love and protection from a mommy every day. I want to take him home, too. :( Too bad our house is so cramped as it is or I don't think I would ever stop adopting. Whoa, I'm getting ahead of myself. I should concentrate on getting the first one before I think of the second or third, LOL.